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MORE is a word almost everyone is familiar with. Man never seems toattain satisfaction.We attain one thing and after a little period of excitement celebrating that particularmilestone, we quickly feel boredwithitand start thinking to ourselves, what MORE can we give our attention to this time around. Technology, creative industries, entertainment and every other industry is bent on pushing the limit a bit further. Career paths created on a daily basis, the needfor the NEW seems to beat into our systems and every other day, we keep wanting for MORE.

I love my Samsung phone but how about I get an iPhone, I make a certain amount of money in a month but I want to make more money, I have achieved this feat but there should be MORE out there for me to accomplish. It seems like we never get to the point of looking at all we have genuinely, become grateful andsimply say we have all that we need.

Could this be a normal trait we ask?

We seem to think that if we only had that one more item, we would be somewhat satisfied.

THE PARADOX

MORE in this article is a phenomenon whereby we always aspire for more and this in itself is not wrong. What puts a dent is its parallel effect…

The paradox of MORE shows that more can set us up to achieving and having options though on the other hand, more stirs a cycle of dissatisfaction, discontentment and deep feelingsof sadness.

Now certain ‘mores’ desired in life are non-negotiable such as;

  • Developing a consistent exercise routine so we can be fit enough to achieve what we desire.
  • Access to top-notch health care facilities.
  • Having enough finances to build a business that contributes to making the world a better place.
  • Tour the world, et cetera.

 

Desiring more can be both good and bad to our lives hence there are some healthy ways to aspire for more;

  1. Have your ‘why’ regarding your More. Ask yourself why you want more money, more networks, more friends, and more social media following. Determine the reason you desire more and set targeted goals towards it, which then serves as a milestone or marker achievement. This indicator will help define your more and help you stay contented.

 

  1. Our desires are most times unlimited and can often times feel very overwhelming. To avoid this, draw up a map of your needs and wants, structure your resources around this map and pay less attention to miscellaneous. This will enable us know what to channel our acquisition energy to and conserve it so we don’t appear scatter brained and interested in every little product advert out there.

 

 

  1. Practice staying grateful for that which you currently have. In your search for more, staying grateful enables us stay happy in our current haves while actively celebrating others who seem to have more than we do. This practice enables us appreciate ourselves, our growth and pace without being overly critical and grossly dissatisfied with our lives while getting feelings of jealousy toward another.

 

  1. Curtail your lust for what other people have. A lot of the times, we end up having possessions we do not necessarily need because of peer pressure and the fear of missing out or even keeping up with the Joneses. Often times, we would feel like we would love to have what our neighbour or friends have but developing discipline by sticking to what we truly know we need will help us stay true to who we are. It will also keep us from cluttering our lives with unwanted which can ultimately cause a feeling of loneliness, depression and sometimes a downward spiral of substance abuse.

  2. How rich or wealthy do you truly want to be? If you had all the billions in the world would it truly make a difference to you? Money is truly important and this cannot be over emphasized. In order not to get into the feeling of the rat race movement, always pursuing, getting and never stopping to appreciate what you possess. Define what wealth means to you. Is it a measure of success to you? Why do you want to be wealthy and even more importantly, how much money do you truly desire to have, have this honest conversation with yourself and determine how far you want to go and possess. This helps you put a check to your greed and FOMO when it creeps up.

 

Conclusion

More is not a bad word, neither is it a bad aspiration but defining what your more is and why you want it makes all the difference.

A popular quote says ‘it is much better to have your possessions than for your possessions to have you.’

The bible states ‘the life of a man does not consist in the abundance of his possessions,’ Ecclesiastes 5:10

 Whoever loves money never has money enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with his income. This too is meaningless.

Live purposefully, stay intentional and own your life and its choices.

 

 

Natasha’s corner

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