Gabrielle Union recently discussed her marriage to former NFL player Chris Howard and said that it had been strained from the start, according to People.
Gabrielle shared that she felt entitled to infidelity during her marriage. She also revealed that she was paying Chris’ bills and the relationship shouldn’t have gone further than the dating phase.
Gabrielle said, “In our first marriage, neither one of us felt like the marriage should get in the way of our dating. A part of it was like keeping up with his activities, like, ‘Oh, that’s what you’re doing? You’re going to feel this one,’ and I just felt entitled to it as well.”
She further added, “I was paying all the bills, I was working very hard, and I felt like that’s what comes, the spoils of riches. Like my dad before me, whoever has the most gets to do whatever the hell they want is what I thought. It was just dysfunctional from day one.”
Gabrielle Union and Chris Howard were married from 2001 to 2005.
According to Union, her first husband was also unfaithful. Recall that she detailed this in her book We’re going To Need More Wine and how this was learned behavior. “Like my dad before me, whoever has the most gets to do what they want. That’s what I thought,” Union explained.
Looking back, however, she admitted she didn’t feel particularly guilty, noting, “I wish I had more guilt for that. It was just such a stupid relationship that should have never gotten out of the dating phase. We were gifted therapy, and the first session, the therapist was like — that was literally what she said — ‘I don’t know how you guys made it out of the dating phase.’” At the time, the actor said, she was “horny for validation.” She continued, “Having certain kinds of guys like me and want me, that made me feel like I was worthy and good and valuable.”